In last week’s episode, Tony made a quick comment about how he had to learn the skill of listening. And it got us thinking...

How do you view marriage?

So on Instagram stories, we asked a simple question:

Do you believe doing marriage well is something you can learn, or do you either have it or you don’t?

A whopping 99% of you said it's a skill you can learn.

And yet...

• Some couples still think connection should come naturally
• Some couples think they can learn skills in one pillar, but not another
• Some couples have all the education but aren't taking action

In today's episode, we share 4 tips to help you start building the skill of connection in your marriage.

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Your 6 Pillars Episode Takeaways

Connection skills aren't something you "have" or "don't have."

• Being vulnerable, navigating conflict, discussing desires—these are all skills you can learn.

Marriage skills aren't one and done.

• It's about the reps you put in. (We literally did the math on the sex and conversations we've had over the last 18 years... It's a LOT of reps!)​

What's one skill you want to focus on this week?

• Answer this question and share it with your spouse. Be intentional and take action.​

Top Resources Mentioned in Today's Episode

• ​Join Intimacy Mastery Today​
• ​Apply for Coaching With Alisa​
• ​The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Book + Workbook Bundle​

We've seen these skills develop in our own marriage through consistent practice and intentionality.

In today's episode, we'll share some real-life examples and actionable steps to help you build these skills in your own relationship.

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Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

More Than Just Another Date

I (Alisa) can vividly remember a season in our marriage when I craved time alone with Tony… but life kept getting in the way.

I wanted us to laugh about old memories… and yet conversations always turned to the kids or work.

And even though we both wanted a stronger sexual bond... we had no idea how to talk about desire in a way that felt safe or productive.

Since then, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples who share the same struggle: They want to reconnect emotionally, recreationally, and sexually… but getting started feels overwhelming, awkward, or impossible.

Through my coaching work, I’ve discovered the most effective, practical ways to rebuild connection. To make it easier for you, I’ve gathered my top strategies into a NEW guided experience you can access instantly—no scheduling needed, and none of the costly coaching fees.

Introducing From Dinner to Desire: A Guided Experience for Your Marriage